When we are not achieving our goals or feel discomfort in areas of our lives it can be for a variety of reasons. One might be that we are not truly connected to our values.
Values can be unconscious drives that motivate us. They can drive whether we take action or not, go for something or not. They can be the foundation of our beliefs. We don’t therefore want to be doing them unconsciously, we want to be raising them to our conscious level. This way we can use them to help us make decisions and ensure we are in alignment. They can help steer our ship. Ever felt you were being driving by perfectionism? Ever felt like you were drawn to everything that sparked your curiosity, then felt overwhelmed by too much choice and information? I know I have. When we are consciously driven by our values and purpose, we can be more focused.
Values “are the principles that give our lives meaning and allow us to persevere through adversity,” – Psychologist Barb Markway and Celia Ampel
- Identify your values – which words resonate with you – Compassion. Curiosity. Financial Security. Health. Fitness. Nature. Achievement. Creativity. Loyalty. Beauty. Growth. Learning. Professionalism. Flexibility. Kindness. Love. Friendship. Generosity. Connection. Relationships. Leadership. Security. Adventure. Family. Success. Recognition. Calm………..others you think of……. (more here by Brene Brown)
- List which of your values ARE expressed in various areas of your life eg: – Work: Home. Relationships. Family. Friends. Etc
- List which of your values ARE NOT expressed in various areas of your life
- What’s the impact?
- What can you do to bring all values into all areas of your life?
You might not reach your goals, but you can almost always choose to live by your values – Dr. Harris – The Confidence Gap.
